Being in a happy relationship can be one of life’s most satisfying experiences. But too many marriages end in divorce. And too many romantic relationships end when there is still hope.
If your romantic relationship needs a tune-up, I can help. In couples counseling I will help you learn how to give and receive respect in your relationship, how to deal with conflict constructively, how to love without losing yourself, and how to improve your sex life. Equally important, I can help you and your partner learn how to have more fun together. Ultimately, mutual respect and having fun together are the glue that make good relationships last.
Questions and Answers About Relationships
Q: Sometimes I get so angry at my partner. Wouldn’t it be better for me to just yell at him and get it out of my system instead of keeping it bottled up inside?
A: It is good and healthy to bring up your concerns, but it’s best to approach your partner in a gentle and respectful way. While yelling at him may give you some temporary relief, it’s apt to put him on the defensive. Then if he yells back, the fight has escalated and the problem is left unresolved.
Q: So how can I bring up an issue that’s really bothering me?
A: The best thing you can do is approach the topic with flexibility and a desire to find a mutually agreeable solution. Be open to hearing your partner’s view and really coming to understand why he feels the way he does. Problems occur if either partner feels like they need to “win.” If you win and your partner loses, your relationship as whole loses too.
Q: Sometimes when my wife and I are having an argument we start saying (or yelling) things that we later regret. Any suggestions?
A: Yes, if you see that you or your wife are about to get really mean or sarcastic, call a time out. Take a break from the argument for at least half an hour. Go get some fresh air, take a walk around the block, or do something else that completely disengages you from the argument. Then, when the two of you have cooled off you can approach the issue more rationally.
Q: My wife and I have been together for several years now. Is there any way to spice up our sex life?
A: The short answer is “yes.” The way to begin is by having a conversation with your wife about the issue. Couples counseling may be a useful part of getting this conversation going.